New question!!! So I'm a senior girl in hs and there's this other hot, smart, great girl…you know where this is going. I've never been with another girl, but I liked this girl since I was a freshman. I don't think I would've even started liking her if she didn't always bend down infront of me. She has such a hot ass. Anyway, we're ok friends, we just email eachother once in a while because we hardly ever see each other at school. Although, we do see eachother in passing period through the halls and she always stares at me. Why does she stare so much? When ever we were together at school last year she would always talk about how single and how she has to go to the dances all by herself. I want to hang out with her, but it's kind of hard since her friends and my friends don't know each other. She invited me to something that's happening in the summer, but we're not really making any progess and how do I even know she likes me? But why else does she stare and notice me? I always use my peripheral vision, so she doesn't know I notice her all the time. She's the only person I notice. But we can't do anything in this stupid conservative town!!!!!! Neither of us can come out. That is, if she even is bi or a les. And I'm shy kid, so that makes it harder. But how do I know she likes me? Without actually asking her, just by bodylanguage? -newpswahine
Knowing if a girl is interested in you is an art that takes years to master. I liken it to the tells at a poker table at your local card room; some are more obvious about their feelings than others. I would recommend you ease into the situation slowly. Start by going to group events together like attending a concert or a sports game on campus. The group environment is less threatening and she wont feel as if you're trying to "come onto her." The key is to making her feel comfortable enough to drop her "poker face" and to express her emotions. Develop a friendly relationship and keep interaction as plutonic as possible in the beginning. As she gets to know you, let her know that you're not as conservative as most of the other folks. When the right opportunity arises, ask her about same sex couples and the such. Tread lightly at first… if she cringes or shys away from the conversation dont press too hard as it is a sensitive topic for a lot of people. The only way to really know if someone is interested in you is to ask. Often times you risk the entire friendship but if you really want to make the leap I would ask out right and to be honest about your feelings.
Some things to look out for if you think she likes you:
-random calls just to talk
-physical contact during face-to-face conversations
-finds opportunities to hang out
-upon first sight of your entrance, she gets excited and rushes to say hi
-pictures of you in her locker
If you have any other specific questions, feel free to post. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
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