Dont date the uglies

I have a had a problem twice where I liked a girl and could tell she liked me but a week after I ask her out I get bored and stop liking her. Did I not like her that much and only thought I liked her because I knew she liked me? These are people that I’ve been friends with, and would want to still be on friendly terms with. -dave

One question you have to ask yourself is why did you like that individual? If your reasons are sound, then did those characterisitics disappear after going out? Many times, people put up a front to attract the opposite sex. Once the goal of hooking up with him/her is reached, that front disappears and the other person is left unsatisfied with his/her decision to pursue a deeper relationship.

Another question to ask is, Did you give yourself enough time with her in the “friends” stage to really find out if you and her are compatible? If you met her last week at a club, chances are you probably didnt find ms. right but probably ms. right-now. Don’t be fooled by those reality dating shows; a true love for another person often takes YEARS to develop. As i’ve said earlier, your best friends arent the ones you met last week, so why do we decide to pursue real relationships with someone you just met?

The key to still being friends after a dating relationship is to break up cleanly. That means no name calling. And jokes about undersized phaillic regions. Also, make sure to take some time off away from one another after a breakup. You want to make sure all the wounds are healed before becoming friends again.

Good luck with your situation. Its not unusual to date someone and find out they’re not quite what you’re looking for. At least you were able to recognize it before things got too serious.

The best dogs are the ones with horns

is it nuts that guys are not able to have platonic relationships with girls because theyre always trying to get in them jeans? or are girls just even crazier not being able realize that guys are horndogs and are constantly perplexed that “friends” try to bend the rules? -ninjarice

This is precisely why male/female relationships are so complex; our distinctive primal natures conflict in such a way as to prevent platonic relationships from forming… if such a platonic relationship WAS possible, then the future of humanity would be at risk. While it might be easy to attempt to blame one sex over another for their apparent insanity, it would be much more productive to accept the inherit differences in the male and female psyche to ones advantage in order to avoid further complications.

Cliffnotes for the ladies: all your male friends want the goodies

Cliffnotes for the fellas: she just wants to be friends. Unless you’re mike chen. then she wants the bd.